Boundaries

How Having Boundaries Actually Gives You Freedom

As a business owner (and a human being in general), it's so crucial to honour your boundaries.

Boundaries with yourself.

Boundaries with family and friends.

Boundaries with clients.

I'm sure you catch my drift - honour your boundaries with everyone.

Because implementing your boundaries is actually quite freeing.

Alright, you hear me - but what the hell does that even mean?

So glad you asked!

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Let's start with boundaries for yourself.

As much as we don't like to admit it, we all have our limits.

We can only accomplish so much in one day.

And while the saying is true; "we all have the same 24 hours in a day"; we don't all want to spend it the exact same way.

You may love doing certain things that I can't stand doing.

And I may suggest something to you that makes you cringe.

That's the beauty of being the boss.

You get to only do those things that you WANT to do.

Now you might be thinking, "but I do all kinds of shit in my business that I don't want to do".

But that's not true. 

Because at some point, you've decided that you actually DO want to do that task.

Whether it's to save money by not having to outsource it (sidenote: I encourage you to really consider if you actually ARE saving money, in the long run, by doing this).

Or whether it's a task you don't like, but you know it will help build your business, so you do it anyway; therefore you are actually choosing that you DO want to do it, because you want business growth.

See what I mean?

It's all how you look at it.

So when I say it's necessary to honour the boundaries you set for yourself, I mean you need to consider what you actually want to do.

And what you DON'T want to do.

We all have our limits.

For everything on that list of things you don't want to do, simply don't do them.

Outsource it to someone who is an expert in that industry.

Someone who actually does like doing those tasks.

Pick and choose which business basics need to get done for your business.

And that means whatever feels right for YOU.

Because building your business in a way that aligns with your values will help you love your career even more.

You don't have to do everything just because it happens to be the hottest trend.

Essentially, say no to things that don't serve you.
 

Which brings us to our next set of boundaries; boundaries with family and friends.

When you're a business owner, for some reason there's always friends or family who expect to get your services for free, or at a discounted rate.

Understand that you are not obligated to give anyone anything for free.

If you choose to gift them your services, great.

But you don't owe anyone anything.

No matter how long you've known them.

And choosing to not give free or discounted services to your family and friends does not make you a bad person.

It actually makes you a good business owner.

You don't discount the VALUE of the service they receive, so you don't need to discount your prices either.

The guilt to give in to their requests is stemming from past people-pleasing ways.

But remember, you run a business.

And you don't have to let guilt make business decisions for you.

In fact, the family and friends who truly support you will be more than happy to invest in you at the full rate.

It's called mutual respect.
 

And finally, honouring your boundaries with clients.

This one is especially important if you're feeling frustrated that you always seem to be working.

You let your clients take advantage of you by being available to them at all hours of the day (and night).

You worry that if a question goes unanswered, then they'll take their business somewhere else.

And so what if they do?

Do you really want to be working with someone who doesn't respect that you have a life outside of work?

That may sound harsh - but actually think about it.

You didn't become an entrepreneur to be at the beck and call of your clients.

If you wanted to let someone else run your schedule, you could have stayed in corporate.

And don't get me wrong.

I appreciate that you have to put in some overtime for yourself when you're getting your business off the ground.

But that doesn't mean you need to change your schedule to make it more convenient for your client.

If they want to work with you, they'll make it happen.

Just like you make it work when YOU want to work with someone.

Treat your home-based business just like any other business - with actual business hours.

I'm typically in my office from Monday to Friday, 9am - 5pm.

Now you might be thinking - but that's the same hours as a corporate job.

You're right - but the difference is that I get to CHOOSE those hours, I'm not being told by someone else that I HAVE to be at work from 9am - 5pm.

HUGE difference.

And I don't make exceptions to this rule unless there's an event of some sort that I want to facilitate, or attend, or unless I'm in a session with my own mentor.

Or unless a friend wants to have lunch - the perks of having your own business, hehe.

I make myself available for coaching sessions with my clients during the afternoon, usually Tuesdays and Thursdays from 12pm - 3pm.

This allows for it to be convenient for them, if they still happen to be working a full time job while they build their side hustle.

And it also honours my own boundaries of only being in my office from 9 to 5.

Keep in mind, these hours can change, as you find different timing that works better for you.

Don't be afraid to set hours that work for YOU.

A healthy work / life balance is what helps keep you loving what you do.

And your ideal customers will appreciate that about you.

At the end of the day, you have to take care of number one.

Which in case you need a reminder, is YOU.

When you honour yourself, it encourages those around you to honour your boundaries too.

And if they don't?

Well, that's their own baggage that has nothing to do with you.

Building your business has to feel right for YOU.

And that includes honouring your boundaries.

Without feeling guilty for taking care of yourself.

You deserve the freedom you've worked so hard to achieve.

 

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