Business owner

Of Course You Think That

Photo by  Gift Habeshaw

Photo by Gift Habeshaw

I'm not good enough. Who would pay me? That other person already does it better than me. What will my husband think of me? I don't have the money. What will my parents think of me? I don't even know where to start. What will my friends think of me? I don't deserve to make money. What will that random stranger that follows me on Facebook think of me? ...

Sound familiar?

I hear ya, sistah! Because I had those exact same thoughts.

And now here you are, thinking about starting a new business - or trying to get your first few sales - and you have all those damn thoughts flooding your mind.

Well, I have some good news for you.

Those thoughts are totally normal.

Of course you're going to think you're not good enough. You're just starting out and learning something new. You're not an expert - YET. But guess what makes you good enough? Putting yourself out there and offering your gifts to the world!

Of course you're going to wonder who would pay you. You don't have any hard evidence in your bank account - YET. But guess what makes people want to pay you? Sharing your message about how you can make their life better with your service or product.

Of course that other person already does it better than you. They've been working at it for years, and you're still new to the game - FOR NOW. But guess what? You do it DIFFERENTLY than that other person, because you are uniquely you!

Of course you care about what your husband thinks. You're in a relationship and a healthy partnership means considering the other person. But guess what? Your husband loves you and supports you, and you might be surprised by how the conversation will go. (Sidenote: If he's a dick about it, you still have your OWN permission to move forward to follow your dreams.)

Of course you think you don't have the money. It's terrifying to not know where your next paycheque will come from. But guess what? If it really means that much to you, you'll find a way to make it happen. It's never about the money. Trust me.

Of course you're worried about what your parents will think. They grew up in a different generation, and don't always understand the entrepreneur scene. But guess what? They don't have to be okay with your decision - they just need to trust you, as you trusted them for the 30-something years of your life.

Of course you don't know where to start. You've never built your own business before, so you can't expect to suddenly be an expert. But guess what? If you just do one small, consistent step forward at a time, you'll get yourself there. (Sidenote: invest in a mentor who has done what you're working to do - they have priceless insight that will get you to where you want to be waaayyy faster than if you try and make it on your own).

Of course you're worried about what your friends will think. You want to make sure you don't lose any friendships along the way. But guess what? Anyone who is your true friend will support you. And those who fall away in the process are meant to be left behind - you don't owe them anything.

Of course you think you don't deserve to make money. You've been TOLD what your salary or hourly wage will be for your whole life, so you're not used to the thought of abundance, and creating a limitless income. But guess what? You'll get used to it pretty damn quick when you're comfortably able to pay the bills AND go on vacation AND still put some money away into savings.

Of course you're thinking about what that random stranger that follows you on Facebook is thinking of you... wait - actually no, that one is just a silly thought - who gives a shit about what that random person thinks? It holds zero use for you to care about that, so just stop - haha!

You see what I'm getting at? 

Of course you have all these thoughts.

And of course you're going to figure it out.

Because you're a badass fempreneur.

And if you're honest with yourself, you KNOW you're capable of doing this.

So trust the process. The answers will come. And if they don't - then go find them!

Because you can. And you WILL.

If you want it bad enough, you'll make it happen.

If you don't, you'll make excuses.

So how bad do you want it?