Why You Feel Stuck in Your Job

Your mind tends to wander to the worst case scenario. It’s human nature. Your brain is literally wired to keep you safe, so anything new sends up a red flag – even if there’s no physical danger; your brain yells, “STOP! We’ve never done this before – we should be scared!”

This is especially true when you’re considering a change in your career.

So instead of making a change, you're choosing to live in fear.

How’s that working for you so far?

You’re tired of the same old routine; get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, go to bed, then do it all again the next day, and the next day, and the next day - until the weekend hits. But then before you know it, it’s Sunday night and you feel that sickening dread creep into the pit of your stomach.

You feel stuck.

You desperately want to leave your job, but your fear-based brain has you thinking:

  • What if people judge you and think you’re irresponsible?
  • What if you lose your steady paycheque and can’t pay the bills?
  • What if you can't actually make it work and you fail?
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Photo by energepic.com

Yet still, the burning desire to do something more is constantly on your mind. 

You want to make a difference.

You want to be your own boss.

You want freedom and flexibility.

Here’s the good news: You can create a life of freedom for yourself! 

The truth is, you can stop being so fearful because:

  • Judgement from others has nothing to do with you (and everything to do with them).
  • Making a steady paycheque as an entrepreneur is completely possible for you because you’re willing to put in the effort.
  • You can totally make this work because failure is not an option for you – you'll do whatever it takes to make this happen for yourself!

You know you've got this – and you’re not going to let your primitive brain hold you back any longer!

You’re ready to follow your heart - to follow your intuition - and take massive, purposeful action to get yourself where you want to be.

You only feel stuck in your job because you're scared of the worst case scenario happening.

You're living in fear.

So, I'll ask you this...

How would it feel to ditch the fear, begin the adventure of becoming an entrepreneur – and start living a life of freedom?



The 3 Ways Success of Others Means Success for You

I'm not gonna lie. This morning I really wanted to sleep in.

I wanted to pull the covers over my head, stay nice and warm and cozy in bed, and just fall back into dream land.

But then a vision of my friend and colleague, Christina Popovic, came into my head.

She's just been nominated for an award that has a cash prize of $10,000.

And she was nominated for this award as recognition for all her hard work and effort as a Life, Health and Mindset Coach - how badass it that?!

So as I thought of her this morning, it inspired me to get my ass out of bed and make full use of today - to kick ass in my business and help change lives for the better - including my own!

Which brings us to the first way the success of others can mean success for you...

Photo by:  StockSnap

Photo by: StockSnap

1. Motivation

All too often we see someone else experiencing success and our immediate emotion is jealousy.

But what if we simply chose to be motivated instead?

What if instead of thinking a negative thought of "it should be ME being successful", we used it as an opportunity to get curious about how they reached their success?

Can you ask them what's working for them directly?

Can you research their background story and read about their success story?

Can you check out their social media accounts and take note of how they market themselves?

Getting motivated opens up so many doors for your own success.

2. Hire them as your mentor

When you see someone else doing what you want to do, it only makes sense to see if you're able to work with them.

They're clearly doing something right, if they're experiencing success.

This is certainly the case when I chose to hire Mandy Perry as my mentor.

Mandy has taken herself and her family from being on food stamps just two years ago, to now owning a successful six-figure business. How friggin' inspiring is THAT?!

So, because I know the importance of having a coach, I started following her on social media, and paying more attention to what she was saying.

It became a factor of "know, like, and trust" - you want your audience to know who you are and what you're about, you want them to like you, and you want them to trust you.

Mandy is all these things to me - so I hired her as my mentor!

3. Celebrating Others Creates High Vibe Attraction

When you're in the space of truly celebrating the success of others, it helps bring those positive high vibes back around your way.

Celebration mode can look like anything from a silly impromptu dance party to just writing a note to that person to let them know how proud you are of them.

Taking time to truly reflect on the feeling of gratitude to know someone who is experiencing success, can ultimately contribute to bringing that success around to you too!

So the next time you feel jealousy creeping up when you hear about someone earning success, stop and think about these three ways their success could make a positive impact on your life as well.

Because the world could use more celebrations.

So celebrate your sisters.

And soon enough, we'll be celebrating YOU!



Choose Freedom Over Fear

But what if other people think I'm dumb?

But what if I don't make money right away?

But what if I fail?

These are all super common thoughts that people have when they're thinking about transitioning from being an employee to being an entrepreneur.

It's so easy to get caught up in the worst case scenarios that we play over and over in our head.

But what if taking a leap of faith and investing in yourself actually created your BEST case scenario?

Photo by  Austin Chan  

Photo by Austin Chan 

This is the sign you've been looking for.

If you knew you couldn't fail, would you do it?

Well here's the good news: You can choose to keep working on your goal UNTIL it becomes your reality.

It doesn't happen overnight. 

And honestly, it wouldn't be as exciting if it did.

Part of the fun is the adventure to get there.

Then you can sit back, take a look at your life, and say "holy shit - I DID IT!"

What would that LOOK like for you?

What would that FEEL like for you?

No really.

Think about it.

You can even journal about it.

How would your life look if you were actually creating the freedom you desire.

How would you feel waking up every day knowing YOU were in control.

I know - it's crazy to think about, because you've mostly just been focusing on the worst case scenario.

But your best case scenario CAN be your reality.

In fact, I'm happy to offer you a free 45 minute Breakthrough Strategy Call, where you'll find out how to:

  • Get super fucking CLEAR on what you want - like, what you ACTUALLY want
  • Create a plan you're PASSIONATE about - light that fire under your ass
  • Take MASSIVE action to make it happen for yourself - and don't worry, I'll support you along the way

You don't have to be chained to your corporate desk forever.

You don't have to live by society's cookie-cutter rules.

Enough bullshit mindset - you're more than capable of making this happen.

Enough just talking about doing it - actually DO it.

Enough waiting until the timing is perfect - there's no such thing.

You CAN do this.

You WILL do this.

You ARE doing this.

Because you deserve to be happy.

And only YOU can do that for yourself.



Of Course You Think That

Photo by  Gift Habeshaw

Photo by Gift Habeshaw

I'm not good enough. Who would pay me? That other person already does it better than me. What will my husband think of me? I don't have the money. What will my parents think of me? I don't even know where to start. What will my friends think of me? I don't deserve to make money. What will that random stranger that follows me on Facebook think of me? ...

Sound familiar?

I hear ya, sistah! Because I had those exact same thoughts.

And now here you are, thinking about starting a new business - or trying to get your first few sales - and you have all those damn thoughts flooding your mind.

Well, I have some good news for you.

Those thoughts are totally normal.

Of course you're going to think you're not good enough. You're just starting out and learning something new. You're not an expert - YET. But guess what makes you good enough? Putting yourself out there and offering your gifts to the world!

Of course you're going to wonder who would pay you. You don't have any hard evidence in your bank account - YET. But guess what makes people want to pay you? Sharing your message about how you can make their life better with your service or product.

Of course that other person already does it better than you. They've been working at it for years, and you're still new to the game - FOR NOW. But guess what? You do it DIFFERENTLY than that other person, because you are uniquely you!

Of course you care about what your husband thinks. You're in a relationship and a healthy partnership means considering the other person. But guess what? Your husband loves you and supports you, and you might be surprised by how the conversation will go. (Sidenote: If he's a dick about it, you still have your OWN permission to move forward to follow your dreams.)

Of course you think you don't have the money. It's terrifying to not know where your next paycheque will come from. But guess what? If it really means that much to you, you'll find a way to make it happen. It's never about the money. Trust me.

Of course you're worried about what your parents will think. They grew up in a different generation, and don't always understand the entrepreneur scene. But guess what? They don't have to be okay with your decision - they just need to trust you, as you trusted them for the 30-something years of your life.

Of course you don't know where to start. You've never built your own business before, so you can't expect to suddenly be an expert. But guess what? If you just do one small, consistent step forward at a time, you'll get yourself there. (Sidenote: invest in a mentor who has done what you're working to do - they have priceless insight that will get you to where you want to be waaayyy faster than if you try and make it on your own).

Of course you're worried about what your friends will think. You want to make sure you don't lose any friendships along the way. But guess what? Anyone who is your true friend will support you. And those who fall away in the process are meant to be left behind - you don't owe them anything.

Of course you think you don't deserve to make money. You've been TOLD what your salary or hourly wage will be for your whole life, so you're not used to the thought of abundance, and creating a limitless income. But guess what? You'll get used to it pretty damn quick when you're comfortably able to pay the bills AND go on vacation AND still put some money away into savings.

Of course you're thinking about what that random stranger that follows you on Facebook is thinking of you... wait - actually no, that one is just a silly thought - who gives a shit about what that random person thinks? It holds zero use for you to care about that, so just stop - haha!

You see what I'm getting at? 

Of course you have all these thoughts.

And of course you're going to figure it out.

Because you're a badass fempreneur.

And if you're honest with yourself, you KNOW you're capable of doing this.

So trust the process. The answers will come. And if they don't - then go find them!

Because you can. And you WILL.

If you want it bad enough, you'll make it happen.

If you don't, you'll make excuses.

So how bad do you want it?




Calling All Fempreneurs

This week we're digging into the perks of being a fempreneur (or aspiring female entrepreneur, because maybe you're still sitting on the fence about it).

It's all too easy to get caught up in the BS of being a #LadyBoss - the daily "busy work" that sucks us in, if we're not careful. The time-wasters, the energy-suckers, the feeling of having to take it all on at once.

No, today we're pushing that crap to the side, and just exploring the amazing benefits of being a badass business woman!

Photo by  Annie Spratt

Photo by Annie Spratt

Entrepreneurship can mean many things to many people, but here's my list of things that has me beyond grateful to call myself a fempreneur:

  • It means we've taken a big leap to believe in our abilities to MAKE IT HAPPEN
  • It means we're ready to take bold action in our business
  • It means we understand the importance of self-care and investing in ourselves
  • It means working with a coach to have support, encouragement and accountability
  • It means we're bigger than our fears
  • It means we have the financial support to allow us to leave the corporate world
  • It means we get to create our own schedules
  • It means we don't need to ask for permission from anyone else
  • It means we can take vacation days without needing a sign-off from management
  • It means we can create an office space for ourselves that inspires creativity
  • It means we get to set goals for ourselves that align with our values
  • It means we can spend more time doing the things most important to us
  • It means we get to build a business by being ourselves
  • It means we're stepping into what we're truly capable of
  • It means we're allowing ourselves to be called to more
  • It means we are in control of our lives
  • It means we get to serve our purpose
  • It means we get to build our business our own way

It means we get to create our ideal life and experience the freedom we deserve!

Sure, there's tough parts about being an entrepreneur - but in the grand scheme of things, those are just blips on the radar.

When your income is based on how many people you're helping with your product or service, that is a wonderful thing.

What better drive, than to serve others and offer them an opportunity to improve their life - all while building a business you can be proud of?

And if you're looking for a community of like-minded women striving to build their empires as well, join us in our free, private Facebook group: Authentic Soul Sisters. We'd love to have you!



Don't Be Afraid to Properly Price Your Product or Service

This is a Facebook post that was made by Tyler J. McCall, Instagram Marketing Strategist, which gives you the PERFECT insight into why it's so important for us, as business owners, to price our products and services properly. I hope that by reading his article below, you'll understand that you don't need to be afraid to price your work at what you deserve to be earning. We put in a lot of hard work as entrepreneurs, and getting paid less than what we deserve (because we're too scared to ask for what we want) certainly isn't helping our businesses be successful.

Why I Charge $500 an Hour

Photo Source:  Tyler J. McCall

Photo Source: Tyler J. McCall

By Tyler J. McCall

I had two Instagram coaching calls today and before I knew it, we were talking about pricing. It’s an important part of how you’re marketing your business AND it plays directly into your ability to spend time marketing and branding your business in the best way possible.

One of my clients is working on increasing her prices to match the all-inclusive offer she’s creating. She’s going to start charging more and build out a full-service offer for her clients instead of charging the bare minimum and being unable to deliver a completed product that she’s proud of. By charging more, she can have control over the results she delivers and can finally provide the full transformation her clients want and need.

Another one of my clients desperately needs to charge more. She’s working herself ragged and she’s not able to show up fully for her clients because she has to have so many clients coming through her doors to make ends meet. She hasn’t had time to really work ON her business in the nearly 10 years she’s been doing what she does because she’s too busy working IN her business. So she’s stuck, spinning her wheels, not seeing the success she deserves.

We HAD to talk about pricing today because it impacts the energy they have to do the homework I assign them. We HAD to talk about pricing because that impacts the sales funnel and sequence we create for their audiences. We HAD to talk about pricing because that impacts what tools or resources they can invest in to implement the lessons I teach them. We HAD to talk about pricing because trying to market your business while you’re on a bathroom break during a 14-hour day is only going to lead to burn out and poor results.

And when we talk about pricing, the fact of the matter is, most creatives need to be charging more.

Let me tell you why I charge what I do…


Yep, I believe I am worth $500 an hour. I used to say my rate sheepishly or make excuses after I told people how much I charge (especially my friends who work a 9-to-5 who don’t get the pricing structure of the freelance coaching that I do).

I’d say things like, “But, you know, it’s not like I’m taking home $500 for an hour of my time because of taxes and expenses and stuff…hardy har har” or, “But, it’s not like I’m booked out 40 hours a week…lolololol.” I wanted to make an excuse to make people more comfortable with my pricing or as some kind of justification for what I charge. OR as some mechanism to hold me back (hello limiting beliefs).

But, here’s the crazy cool thing, I don’t have to justify my price to ANYONE. I’m in business for myself and I get to decide how much I charge. Pretty cool, huh?

But, when I do think about my worth and how it’s attributed to dollars, I think $500 an hour is a steal.

I’ve been a student of social media marketing for nearly 10 years. I’ve used virtually every platform there is to build businesses and brands online. I’ve started and run non-profit organizations using social media. I’ve built brands using social media. I’ve managed Instagram accounts with hundreds of followers and tens of thousands of followers. I’ve researched marketing and social media trends and know what’s happening now and what’s on the horizon in the weeks and months ahead. I’ve helped clients land customers while they only had 150 followers and helped other clients show up in a more genuine way to book their dream clients on a regular basis. I’ve built an audience of over 25,000 people in less than a year. I’ve launched products and services and booked myself solid for months on end without a website - all while using Instagram. Yep, just Instagram.

So, it’s either hours of you trying to figure it out yourself, piecing together blog posts and podcasts and free challenges and copying what he’s doing or she’s doing or they’re doing to get mediocre results. OR, an investment with someone who’s been there, done that, and is ready to take you from point A to point Z in the quickest and simplest way possible.

That’s worth $500.


Here’s what an “hour” of coaching looks like for me.

15 minutes of emailing with a client to book.
15 minutes reading my client’s questionnaire to understand their goals and pain points.
1 hour of client research including reviewing their Instagram, Facebook, website, account insights, posting frequency, visual identity, brand voice, hashtag usage, Instagram Stories usage, engagement habits, industry, and overall brand presence.
30 minutes of session prep including a session outline, talking points, and key takeaways.
1 hour of coaching.
15 minutes of compiling call recording and notes and uploading to client portal.
30 minutes of writing action steps and pulling together resources including complimentary guides, workbooks, and worksheets (materials I’ve created over the past 2 years).
2-3 hours of virtual client support for one week after our session including answering questions via email, reviewing hashtag lists, reviewing target account lists, reviewing new content on Instagram, sending more resources to answer additional questions, and harassing clients when they don’t post after our session.

So, that one hour for $500 is actually 5 to 10 hours of actual WORK for that client. Because there ain’t no half-assin’ going on around here. I use my full ass when I’m working on things I love (and I got a whole lotta ass).

That’s not even accounting for the years of experience my clients get, the continuing education I do to stay on top of the industry and trends, the thousands of hours I’ve spent managing dozens of social media accounts over the past 8 years to figure out what works best, AND the ideas and lessons I share that save my clients time and money in the long run. And it’s definitely not accounting for the months or years I’ve spent nurturing my relationship with my audience to get them to the point of booking.


Okay, here’s a BIGGIE. This is what my girl Oprah would call a “tweet tweet” (and yeah, I know, I can’t call her “my girl Oprah” because I don’t know her…but, I’ve watched enough Super Soul Sunday to FEEL like I know her and she knows me and we’re actually best friends in my head…).

There are 10,000 things that I do in my business that are not directly revenue generating. HOWEVER, I still need to be compensated for those tasks.

Checking emails? Not directly revenue generating.
Organizing my office? Not directly revenue generating.
Cataloging my receipts? Not directly revenue generating.
Weekly check-ins with my community manager? Not directly revenue generating.
Mastermind calls? Not directly revenue generating.
Creating free content? Not directly revenue generating.
Doing Facebook and Instagram Live streams? Not directly revenue generating.
Doing podcast interviews? Not directly revenue generating.
Writing guest blog posts? Not directly revenue generating.
Listening to podcasts? Not directly revenue generating.
Reading business books? Not directly revenue generating.
Attending conferences and summits? Not directly revenue generating.
Taking online courses? Not directly revenue generating.
Digging into the latest social media reports? Not directly revenue generating.
Watching Facebook or Instagram keynotes and product releases? Not directly revenue generating.

I don’t get paid by anyone to do any of those things.

But all of those things are tied to the experience I provide for my clients. They all ensure that I am able to show up fully for my clients and give them the BEST experience when we work together. They ensure my business is running smoothly so I can take on clients and provide coaching.

Who’s paying you when you’re away at that fancy schmancy conference learning the latest industry trends?

Who’s paying you when you’re writing blog posts or scheduling your Instagram posts?

Who’s paying you when you’re revamping your website or updating your bio?

If you’re not paying yourself for alllll of the tasks that go into running your business, you’re not charging enough!


This was one of my biggest ah-ha’s in 2017. At one point this year, I had 17 clients on my coaching roster. With meetings schedule once a week or once every other week, I had days upon days filled with coaching calls.

Do you know how hard it is for a human person to talk to 4 or 5 different people a day about 4 or 5 different businesses and be able to show up for each one in a genuine, honest, caring, and creative way?

Yeah, that shit ain’t happenin’.

I realized it was unfair to my clients for me to charge less and work with more people. How were they going to have a transformational experience when I wasn’t showing up fully for each and every one of them? How could they expect me to coach them to the best of my ability when I was cranking through coaching calls like a fat kid eating a pack of Oreos (which is very fast, without breathing, and with no care or concern for my physical appearance…also, I am a fat kid, so don’t @ me).

Now, I work with 2 or 3 coaching clients at a time and those folks get ALL OF ME! They get my attention and my focus. They get my best ideas. They get my mind focused on their business. They get my time. I show up fully for each of them - energized and ready to tackle their problems and help them take their business to the next level. I actually have the time and ability to fully support them between sessions (hello harassing messages about where your Instagram posts have been this week). And, they get notes in the mail because it’s cute and fun and I love stationery, okay?!


If you’ve been in the coaching industry for more time than it’s taking you to read this post, you’ve probably heard this saying. But, this year has proven to me how true the phrase really is. The more people pay, the more they pay attention to what you say, implement what you teach, and value what you sell.

It’s why a $50 plate from a local potter means more to you than a $1 plat from the Dollar Tree.

It’s why you don’t allow food on that new sofa that was just delivered.

It’s why you take so much care in washing your beautiful cashmere sweater.

They have value to you, they cost more money, they are worth something.

I’ve charged $47 an hour and $497 an hour and I promise you that my $497 an hour clients get 100x more from our experience together because they actually do the work. You wouldn’t believe the number of clients I’ve had who have paid hundreds of dollars for 6, 8, even 12 coaching sessions who are in the exact same place today as they were when we started because they didn’t follow through. And, as a coach, there’s only so much I can do on the follow through side of things.

I always tell my clients, I’m here to walk you through it; but, you have to DO it.

So now, I charge more. Because if you’re going to part with $500 for an hour with me, you’re going to get your money’s worth. And that means you’re going to implement what I tell you to do, you’re going to follow the action plan I give you, you’re going to do your damn homework, and you’re going to email me your questions.

Oh, the questions that have gone unanswered because my clients never emailed me or responded to my check-in emails.

That doesn’t happen anymore!


And last, but definitely not least, is the realization that not charging what we’re worth damages our entire creative industry.

When I don’t charge what I’m worth, I can’t pay others what they’re worth. When I don’t charge enough, I can’t pay my community manager enough. Which means she can’t invest in education to grow her business. Which means a course creator out there isn’t getting her money for their latest product. So they can’t afford a designer. Who isn’t charging what she’s worth so she can’t afford to hire me to coach her on how to better market her business.

You see how it’s a big ol’ circle and by not charging what we need to charge, we make it harder and harder for us to support one another?

We truly rise together and the longer we wait to charge what we should truly charge, the longer it takes for us all to move to the next level of success in our business.

Not charging what you’re worth means others can’t make ends meet through pursuing their creative passion.

And, as creatives, if we fail to support one another, we’ve lost.

Because artists need to support artists and creatives need to support creatives.

At the end of the day, you’re doing ME a disservice when YOU don’t charge what you’re worth.