Female business owner

Why You Feel Stuck in Your Job

Your mind tends to wander to the worst case scenario. It’s human nature. Your brain is literally wired to keep you safe, so anything new sends up a red flag – even if there’s no physical danger; your brain yells, “STOP! We’ve never done this before – we should be scared!”

This is especially true when you’re considering a change in your career.

So instead of making a change, you're choosing to live in fear.

How’s that working for you so far?

You’re tired of the same old routine; get up, go to work, come home, make dinner, go to bed, then do it all again the next day, and the next day, and the next day - until the weekend hits. But then before you know it, it’s Sunday night and you feel that sickening dread creep into the pit of your stomach.

You feel stuck.

You desperately want to leave your job, but your fear-based brain has you thinking:

  • What if people judge you and think you’re irresponsible?
  • What if you lose your steady paycheque and can’t pay the bills?
  • What if you can't actually make it work and you fail?
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Photo by energepic.com

Yet still, the burning desire to do something more is constantly on your mind. 

You want to make a difference.

You want to be your own boss.

You want freedom and flexibility.

Here’s the good news: You can create a life of freedom for yourself! 

The truth is, you can stop being so fearful because:

  • Judgement from others has nothing to do with you (and everything to do with them).
  • Making a steady paycheque as an entrepreneur is completely possible for you because you’re willing to put in the effort.
  • You can totally make this work because failure is not an option for you – you'll do whatever it takes to make this happen for yourself!

You know you've got this – and you’re not going to let your primitive brain hold you back any longer!

You’re ready to follow your heart - to follow your intuition - and take massive, purposeful action to get yourself where you want to be.

You only feel stuck in your job because you're scared of the worst case scenario happening.

You're living in fear.

So, I'll ask you this...

How would it feel to ditch the fear, begin the adventure of becoming an entrepreneur – and start living a life of freedom?



The 3 Ways Success of Others Means Success for You

I'm not gonna lie. This morning I really wanted to sleep in.

I wanted to pull the covers over my head, stay nice and warm and cozy in bed, and just fall back into dream land.

But then a vision of my friend and colleague, Christina Popovic, came into my head.

She's just been nominated for an award that has a cash prize of $10,000.

And she was nominated for this award as recognition for all her hard work and effort as a Life, Health and Mindset Coach - how badass it that?!

So as I thought of her this morning, it inspired me to get my ass out of bed and make full use of today - to kick ass in my business and help change lives for the better - including my own!

Which brings us to the first way the success of others can mean success for you...

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Photo by: StockSnap

1. Motivation

All too often we see someone else experiencing success and our immediate emotion is jealousy.

But what if we simply chose to be motivated instead?

What if instead of thinking a negative thought of "it should be ME being successful", we used it as an opportunity to get curious about how they reached their success?

Can you ask them what's working for them directly?

Can you research their background story and read about their success story?

Can you check out their social media accounts and take note of how they market themselves?

Getting motivated opens up so many doors for your own success.

2. Hire them as your mentor

When you see someone else doing what you want to do, it only makes sense to see if you're able to work with them.

They're clearly doing something right, if they're experiencing success.

This is certainly the case when I chose to hire Mandy Perry as my mentor.

Mandy has taken herself and her family from being on food stamps just two years ago, to now owning a successful six-figure business. How friggin' inspiring is THAT?!

So, because I know the importance of having a coach, I started following her on social media, and paying more attention to what she was saying.

It became a factor of "know, like, and trust" - you want your audience to know who you are and what you're about, you want them to like you, and you want them to trust you.

Mandy is all these things to me - so I hired her as my mentor!

3. Celebrating Others Creates High Vibe Attraction

When you're in the space of truly celebrating the success of others, it helps bring those positive high vibes back around your way.

Celebration mode can look like anything from a silly impromptu dance party to just writing a note to that person to let them know how proud you are of them.

Taking time to truly reflect on the feeling of gratitude to know someone who is experiencing success, can ultimately contribute to bringing that success around to you too!

So the next time you feel jealousy creeping up when you hear about someone earning success, stop and think about these three ways their success could make a positive impact on your life as well.

Because the world could use more celebrations.

So celebrate your sisters.

And soon enough, we'll be celebrating YOU!



Choose Freedom Over Fear

But what if other people think I'm dumb?

But what if I don't make money right away?

But what if I fail?

These are all super common thoughts that people have when they're thinking about transitioning from being an employee to being an entrepreneur.

It's so easy to get caught up in the worst case scenarios that we play over and over in our head.

But what if taking a leap of faith and investing in yourself actually created your BEST case scenario?

Photo by  Austin Chan  

Photo by Austin Chan 

This is the sign you've been looking for.

If you knew you couldn't fail, would you do it?

Well here's the good news: You can choose to keep working on your goal UNTIL it becomes your reality.

It doesn't happen overnight. 

And honestly, it wouldn't be as exciting if it did.

Part of the fun is the adventure to get there.

Then you can sit back, take a look at your life, and say "holy shit - I DID IT!"

What would that LOOK like for you?

What would that FEEL like for you?

No really.

Think about it.

You can even journal about it.

How would your life look if you were actually creating the freedom you desire.

How would you feel waking up every day knowing YOU were in control.

I know - it's crazy to think about, because you've mostly just been focusing on the worst case scenario.

But your best case scenario CAN be your reality.

In fact, I'm happy to offer you a free 45 minute Breakthrough Strategy Call, where you'll find out how to:

  • Get super fucking CLEAR on what you want - like, what you ACTUALLY want
  • Create a plan you're PASSIONATE about - light that fire under your ass
  • Take MASSIVE action to make it happen for yourself - and don't worry, I'll support you along the way

You don't have to be chained to your corporate desk forever.

You don't have to live by society's cookie-cutter rules.

Enough bullshit mindset - you're more than capable of making this happen.

Enough just talking about doing it - actually DO it.

Enough waiting until the timing is perfect - there's no such thing.

You CAN do this.

You WILL do this.

You ARE doing this.

Because you deserve to be happy.

And only YOU can do that for yourself.



How Having Boundaries Actually Gives You Freedom

As a business owner (and a human being in general), it's so crucial to honour your boundaries.

Boundaries with yourself.

Boundaries with family and friends.

Boundaries with clients.

I'm sure you catch my drift - honour your boundaries with everyone.

Because implementing your boundaries is actually quite freeing.

Alright, you hear me - but what the hell does that even mean?

So glad you asked!

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Photo by rawpixel.com on Unsplash

Let's start with boundaries for yourself.

As much as we don't like to admit it, we all have our limits.

We can only accomplish so much in one day.

And while the saying is true; "we all have the same 24 hours in a day"; we don't all want to spend it the exact same way.

You may love doing certain things that I can't stand doing.

And I may suggest something to you that makes you cringe.

That's the beauty of being the boss.

You get to only do those things that you WANT to do.

Now you might be thinking, "but I do all kinds of shit in my business that I don't want to do".

But that's not true. 

Because at some point, you've decided that you actually DO want to do that task.

Whether it's to save money by not having to outsource it (sidenote: I encourage you to really consider if you actually ARE saving money, in the long run, by doing this).

Or whether it's a task you don't like, but you know it will help build your business, so you do it anyway; therefore you are actually choosing that you DO want to do it, because you want business growth.

See what I mean?

It's all how you look at it.

So when I say it's necessary to honour the boundaries you set for yourself, I mean you need to consider what you actually want to do.

And what you DON'T want to do.

We all have our limits.

For everything on that list of things you don't want to do, simply don't do them.

Outsource it to someone who is an expert in that industry.

Someone who actually does like doing those tasks.

Pick and choose which business basics need to get done for your business.

And that means whatever feels right for YOU.

Because building your business in a way that aligns with your values will help you love your career even more.

You don't have to do everything just because it happens to be the hottest trend.

Essentially, say no to things that don't serve you.

Which brings us to our next set of boundaries; boundaries with family and friends.

When you're a business owner, for some reason there's always friends or family who expect to get your services for free, or at a discounted rate.

Understand that you are not obligated to give anyone anything for free.

If you choose to gift them your services, great.

But you don't owe anyone anything.

No matter how long you've known them.

And choosing to not give free or discounted services to your family and friends does not make you a bad person.

It actually makes you a good business owner.

You don't discount the VALUE of the service they receive, so you don't need to discount your prices either.

The guilt to give in to their requests is stemming from past people-pleasing ways.

But remember, you run a business.

And you don't have to let guilt make business decisions for you.

In fact, the family and friends who truly support you will be more than happy to invest in you at the full rate.

It's called mutual respect.

And finally, honouring your boundaries with clients.

This one is especially important if you're feeling frustrated that you always seem to be working.

You let your clients take advantage of you by being available to them at all hours of the day (and night).

You worry that if a question goes unanswered, then they'll take their business somewhere else.

And so what if they do?

Do you really want to be working with someone who doesn't respect that you have a life outside of work?

That may sound harsh - but actually think about it.

You didn't become an entrepreneur to be at the beck and call of your clients.

If you wanted to let someone else run your schedule, you could have stayed in corporate.

And don't get me wrong.

I appreciate that you have to put in some overtime for yourself when you're getting your business off the ground.

But that doesn't mean you need to change your schedule to make it more convenient for your client.

If they want to work with you, they'll make it happen.

Just like you make it work when YOU want to work with someone.

Treat your home-based business just like any other business - with actual business hours.

I'm typically in my office from Monday to Friday, 9am - 5pm.

Now you might be thinking - but that's the same hours as a corporate job.

You're right - but the difference is that I get to CHOOSE those hours, I'm not being told by someone else that I HAVE to be at work from 9am - 5pm.

HUGE difference.

And I don't make exceptions to this rule unless there's an event of some sort that I want to facilitate, or attend, or unless I'm in a session with my own mentor.

Or unless a friend wants to have lunch - the perks of having your own business, hehe.

I make myself available for coaching sessions with my clients during the afternoon, usually Tuesdays and Thursdays from 12pm - 3pm.

This allows for it to be convenient for them, if they still happen to be working a full time job while they build their side hustle.

And it also honours my own boundaries of only being in my office from 9 to 5.

Keep in mind, these hours can change, as you find different timing that works better for you.

Don't be afraid to set hours that work for YOU.

A healthy work / life balance is what helps keep you loving what you do.

And your ideal customers will appreciate that about you.

At the end of the day, you have to take care of number one.

Which in case you need a reminder, is YOU.

When you honour yourself, it encourages those around you to honour your boundaries too.

And if they don't?

Well, that's their own baggage that has nothing to do with you.

Building your business has to feel right for YOU.

And that includes honouring your boundaries.

Without feeling guilty for taking care of yourself.

You deserve the freedom you've worked so hard to achieve.



Of Course You Think That

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Photo by Gift Habeshaw

I'm not good enough. Who would pay me? That other person already does it better than me. What will my husband think of me? I don't have the money. What will my parents think of me? I don't even know where to start. What will my friends think of me? I don't deserve to make money. What will that random stranger that follows me on Facebook think of me? ...

Sound familiar?

I hear ya, sistah! Because I had those exact same thoughts.

And now here you are, thinking about starting a new business - or trying to get your first few sales - and you have all those damn thoughts flooding your mind.

Well, I have some good news for you.

Those thoughts are totally normal.

Of course you're going to think you're not good enough. You're just starting out and learning something new. You're not an expert - YET. But guess what makes you good enough? Putting yourself out there and offering your gifts to the world!

Of course you're going to wonder who would pay you. You don't have any hard evidence in your bank account - YET. But guess what makes people want to pay you? Sharing your message about how you can make their life better with your service or product.

Of course that other person already does it better than you. They've been working at it for years, and you're still new to the game - FOR NOW. But guess what? You do it DIFFERENTLY than that other person, because you are uniquely you!

Of course you care about what your husband thinks. You're in a relationship and a healthy partnership means considering the other person. But guess what? Your husband loves you and supports you, and you might be surprised by how the conversation will go. (Sidenote: If he's a dick about it, you still have your OWN permission to move forward to follow your dreams.)

Of course you think you don't have the money. It's terrifying to not know where your next paycheque will come from. But guess what? If it really means that much to you, you'll find a way to make it happen. It's never about the money. Trust me.

Of course you're worried about what your parents will think. They grew up in a different generation, and don't always understand the entrepreneur scene. But guess what? They don't have to be okay with your decision - they just need to trust you, as you trusted them for the 30-something years of your life.

Of course you don't know where to start. You've never built your own business before, so you can't expect to suddenly be an expert. But guess what? If you just do one small, consistent step forward at a time, you'll get yourself there. (Sidenote: invest in a mentor who has done what you're working to do - they have priceless insight that will get you to where you want to be waaayyy faster than if you try and make it on your own).

Of course you're worried about what your friends will think. You want to make sure you don't lose any friendships along the way. But guess what? Anyone who is your true friend will support you. And those who fall away in the process are meant to be left behind - you don't owe them anything.

Of course you think you don't deserve to make money. You've been TOLD what your salary or hourly wage will be for your whole life, so you're not used to the thought of abundance, and creating a limitless income. But guess what? You'll get used to it pretty damn quick when you're comfortably able to pay the bills AND go on vacation AND still put some money away into savings.

Of course you're thinking about what that random stranger that follows you on Facebook is thinking of you... wait - actually no, that one is just a silly thought - who gives a shit about what that random person thinks? It holds zero use for you to care about that, so just stop - haha!

You see what I'm getting at? 

Of course you have all these thoughts.

And of course you're going to figure it out.

Because you're a badass fempreneur.

And if you're honest with yourself, you KNOW you're capable of doing this.

So trust the process. The answers will come. And if they don't - then go find them!

Because you can. And you WILL.

If you want it bad enough, you'll make it happen.

If you don't, you'll make excuses.

So how bad do you want it?