Inner critic

It Will Always Work Out

I just got off a group coaching call with my mentor, Mandy Perry, who is AMAZING! The topic was about money mindset - but the funny thing is that there's so much more to money mindset than just your thoughts about money itself.

Photo by  Fabian Blank

Photo by Fabian Blank

When it comes to investing in yourself, it runs much deeper than a question of "can I afford it?".

Because if you want it bad enough, you'll tell yourself you CAN afford it.

And if you're scared that you'll fail, or that you're not capable of putting in hard work, then you'll tell yourself you CAN'T afford it.

It's so easy to use money as a deflection - to use it as a way to get out of showing up for yourself.

But it's never about the money.

Ask yourself what you REALLY want.

Do you really want to choose to believe that you're not worth the investment in yourself? 

Because I can tell you that you are worth it.

Or do you truly want to make this investment in yourself because you can feel it in your bones that this is exactly what you need to propel yourself forward?

And that's not coming from a place of wanting you to give me your money.

No, it comes from a place of knowing the exact same thoughts you're having, and feeling those exact same emotions - and knowing the EMPOWERMENT of pushing past the bullshit excuses and just making it happen for yourself - to allow yourself to be called to more, because you KNOW you're capable of it.

Sure, if we both feel that we're a good fit for each other, I'd love to work with you.

But if we decide we're not the best fit for each other, then I still want you to find SOMEONE who you resonate with, to help you be inspired you step into your true self - to be yourself and believe in yourself.

Because investing in your self care is one of the best choices you will ever make.

Whether it's with me as your coach, or someone else who speaks to your soul.

I'm lucky enough to have found someone I resonate with. That when Mandy speaks - I feel like she's somehow uncovered those deep thoughts within me.

And in a way, she has. Because she's been there too.

Just like I've been exactly where you are now - and continue to manage my mind each and every day.

The message that Mandy helped me realize today is...

It will always work out.

All you have to do is trust in the process, and ask yourself what the next step is that you can take to move yourself forward.

Are you willing to do what it takes to make this opportunity become your reality?

Do you believe you will put in the work to show up for yourself?

Or are you telling yourself that it's never worked in the past, so it's not going to work this time either.

That's BS. 

The past is NOT evidence of the future.

So what if it didn't work before?

That was then. This is now.

And every moment of your life, you have the choice to make a move to allow you to step forward - or to choose to keep feeling like shit, and stay exactly where you are.

I know this because I was there too.

I can't even count the times I would cry (literally cry) about how I wanted things to be different - yet I did nothing to change.

So here's some tough love for you: If you want things to be different, then cut the crap and choose to do something different for yourself.

What are you willing to do to get yourself to where you want to be?



You Define Who You Are

Today's blog is inspired by a quote from Brooke Castillo, founder of The Life Coach School. Like me, Brooke strives to empower people to honour themselves and live with purpose. One of my goals as a coach is to help women appreciate who they are, what they're capable of, and to step into their dreams and turn them into reality. I give you the tools to become self-aware and realize that YOU define who you are - not society's beliefs, not what your family or friends tell you, and not confining yourself to the limitations whispered by your inner-critic. Here are the words Brooke said:

"You get to define who you are. Who you are depends on what you think about yourself. You get to decide who you want to be."

So. Much. Truth. 

That might sound like a total mindfuck for those of you who have never stopped to consider this concept. And to that, I say: GOOD! Sometimes that's exactly what it takes to wake us up to opportunity! A jolt of truth that knocks us on our ass and makes us question everything we thought we knew is typically the catalyst for a new beginning - a new way of living.

Photo by  Daniel Apodaca

You can read this and let it pass through you, making excuses like "it's not that easy", "you don't understand", or "that might work for other people, but not for me" - you can choose to be the victim. And you'll stay exactly where you are; not being true to yourself.

Or, you can choose to accept this as your new truth. An awakening of your soul. An opportunity to see the world with your eyes wide open - soaking in self-awareness. Moving yourself forward towards your goals and the life you actually want to be living. Finally.

You are in control. You choose your own actions. You choose your reactions. You can take responsibility of your life. You define who you are.

So I ask you, what do you think about yourself? Who are you deciding to be?



Food Shaming


SHAME! I want to address something that I had an epiphany about earlier this year. The shame that people (including myself) place around food. I was watching a video and the woman was talking about our relationships with food - and she asked us to consider the feelings we have around food. That is when it hit me like a truck - SHAME and GUILT were the two main feelings I had associated with food for as long as I can remember. 

And I'm not the only one - there were muffins in the kitchen at my office, and three separate people walked in and made a comment about how they wanted one, but they shouldn't have one because they're watching their weight... that right there, ladies and gentlemen, is SHAME in disguise. Your mind is shaming you for wanting something you know isn't the healthiest of choices. But in moderation, there's no reason why you can't have a damn muffin every once in a while!

Through becoming more self-aware, and acknowledging my struggle with weight and body image, I noticed whenever I ate something, I subconsciously judged myself. When I wanted to treat myself, I typically had the urge to sneak it or hide the evidence, so people didn't judge me - but what I realized is that I was the one judging myself - and feeling shameful! I told myself I "shouldn't" be eating that, or that I didn't "earn" it... umm, last time I checked, I'm not a dog - I don't do tricks for food, so why do I feel like I need to earn a treat - or that I'm not ALLOWED to have something? Why did I associate shame and guilt with food? 

That's what I set out to uncover! Since I had that revelation, I wanted to learn what was behind these thoughts and these feelings, so I could educate myself, set my mind straight, and improve my relationship with food. 

Considering the fact that I eat healthy about 70% of the time, I should have been congratulating myself - but instead, my mind focused on the bad - a very common human tendency. Picking yourself apart, and putting yourself down seems to be the instincts we feel - and that is because it's been our inner dialog for a really long time...

BUT that doesn't mean we can't change it. And I work on that every single day. We need to be our own biggest cheerleader - because if you don't love yourself, how can you give your best self to those you love? When you're a happier, healthier person - mind, body, and soul - you make your own life better, and also the lives of those around you. And everyone deserves to be happy. Yes, even you!