Let it go

Are You Dragging Dead Bodies?

Yeah, with all the zombie hype and negativity in the news, I thought a morbid approach for this title might grab your attention! But it's actually a serious question.

Many of us are dragging around dead bodies with us and just can't get rid of them. Even when we know they serve no real purpose and don't bring any value to our lives.

Photo by  Ian Espinosa

Photo by Ian Espinosa

Okay, yes, we're not talking about literal dead bodies (which I'm sure you assumed, because you're smart like that), but we ARE talking about the dead weight you drag around with you when you continue to try and save relationships that are way past their expiry date.

Essentially, we're talking about toxic relationships. And these come in many shapes and sizes.

There's the dramatic friend who's life is a mess and they always depend on you to help pick up the pieces of their disaster decisions that you somehow get wrapped up in it because you're trying to do everything for them until they get their shit together... which never seems to happen.

There's the parents who are always negative and consistently let you know that you can't do anything right; who don't understand the direction you're taking in your life because they never experienced anything outside of their limited bubble of beliefs, so they crap all over your ideas and tell you that you should have a "real job".

There's the partner who isn't supportive at all because they're afraid you'll outgrow them, so they try to control you and keep you small; they fight you on every kind of personal development aspect you're doing for yourself and tell you that you're being selfish.

I could go on, but I'm sure you get the idea.

Most of us can think of at least one toxic relationship that we tolerate for one reason or another.

But aren't you tired of carrying around that dead body?

It drains your energy.

It triggers thoughts of doubt.

It causes feelings of unworthiness.

And for what?

What value does that relationship truly bring to your life?

It doesn't matter if you've been friends with that train wreck of a friend since kindergarten.

It doesn't matter if they're your parents, so you feel like you owe them something.

It doesn't matter if you've been with your partner for years and are terrified if you leave them, you'll die alone.

Honestly. It doesn't matter.

You don't owe anyone anything.

No matter what your past history is.

No matter what your future fears are.

You don't owe them shit.

But you know who you DO owe something to?


So use this as your permission to take a long hard look at the toxic relationships in your life.

Do you really want to keep tolerating their bullshit because you feel guilty or scared of change?

Are you really willing to make yourself feel like crap because you don't want to hurt their feelings?

Letting toxic relationships persist in your life are like dragging dead bodies.

It serves no real purpose for you.

It brings no true value to you.

So maybe you start by lessening the time you spend with them.

Or maybe you decide to go cold turkey and just peace out.

But know this...

you create your experience of life.

So if something - or someone - doesn't serve a purpose or bring value to your life, you're allowed to walk away.

You'll get over the guilt.

You'll get over the fear.

And you'll be giving yourself the amazing gift of freedom.

To be who you are.

To do what you know you're meant to do.

Because you don't have to answer to anyone but yourself.

This is your life.

What kind of life experience will you create for yourself?