Stop Overthinking & Making Shit Complicated

As humans, for some reason we feel the need to create some kind of drama and chaos in our lives.

Even for the most ridiculous situations. 

We make them more complicated than they need to be.

Perfect example of this, with a totally silly situation; here's a conversation my husband and I had today...

Me: **Sitting on the couch with my head back and eyes closed because I've had a headache for a couple hours**

Jeff: "You tired?"

Me: "Yeah, I have a headache. I think it's because of my ponytail - I haven't worn one in a while."

Jeff: **Pauses, looks at me like I have three heads, then says** "Then take out your ponytail."

Me: "Oh... yeah... I guess that would help, eh?"

Jeff: **Teasing me** "Oh, this thing I have complete control over is causing me unnecessary pain - I don't know what to do about it."

Like, WHAT?! Why did it take my husband suggesting for me to take my ponytail out for me to actually do it?!

I had complete control over the situation the whole time and could have saved myself two hours of headache by just letting my hair down - yet I made it more complicated than it had to be.

How often do we do silly shit like that, making our lives more difficult because we're not paying attention to - or acting on - obvious solutions?

Photo credit: Photo by  Erick Marroquín  

Photo credit: Photo by Erick Marroquín 

And when it comes to the bigger situations in life, we can make things a whole lot less complicated by just releasing the amount of control we "need" to have for the outcome.

What comes to mind for this is when you're planning your wedding.

We make these big elaborate expectations and then worry that everything needs to happen exactly how we planned them, and it needs to be perfect.

We overthink about every worst case scenario that could happen, and try to have some plan in place in case it happens (which it very rarely does).

And at the end of the day, if you're married to the person you love, that's all that matters.

For real though.

That's literally all that matters on your wedding day.

You don't remember exactly how your centerpieces looked, or if you said all the right things in your speech or if the food was the perfect temperature.

You remember the moment you saw your partner for the first time that day, you remember the butterflies in your stomach as you read your vows to each other, you remember how it felt to be in their arms during your first dance.

All the little shit you thought was so important and gave you anxiety leading up to your wedding - it didn't even matter.

You're married.

That's all that matters.

And for the every day things in life and business, I have one piece of advice:

Let your intuition lead you.

Push past the bullshit fears and anxiety, and really listen to what your gut is telling you.

You always know what you want.

Sometimes we're just too afraid to say it out loud.

Sure, it helps to have a coach guide you if you need help uncovering what you want.

But they're just there to help you realize what you already know subconsciously.

So can we just cut the crap and actually say what we want?

Can we agree to not need control over things that won't matter in the long run?

Can we agree to just stop overthinking situations?

Can we agree to not complicate things?

There's already so much BS drama in the world - we don't need to add to it.

And wouldn't you love to live a life of simplicity?